Guest Blogger Paula Green writes about how to find happiness and love. When we put pressure on a water saturated sponge we know what will come out. Water. What comes out of me when I am under pressure? Guilt, frustration, anger, self victimization. That is what came out last year. This year when I am […]
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Why Do I Hold Myself Back?
I recently received an email from a client asking, “Why do I hold myself back?” Her precise words were, “I continue to feel myself holding back a small part of me … not wanting to fully engage myself. I recognize that I do this in several areas of my life. I protect myself in this […]
Leaving a Relationship: The Easy Way Out? | Huffington Post
As a practicing therapist, working with many couples over the past 20 years, I disagree with Dr. Margaret’s Paul’s recent article in the Huffington Post, Leaving A Relationship: The Easy Way Out?, wherein she proclaims that difficult relationships are fodder for personal growth and that relationships are hard work. If you believe this, you’re in […]
Buddhism Taking Refuge or How Do We Make Ourselves Feel Safe?
One of our Live Conscious community members recently participated in a Buddhist dharma leadership retreat. He shared with us that in Buddhism taking refuge is a important concept, and he asked us to think about how we take refuge. He explained that we can “take refuge,” or we can “take false refuge.” What follows is […]
How To Find A Good Man
“How To Find A Good Man,” is a continuation from an earlier blog, “Why can’t I find a good man,” in which I suggest that many women attempt to force relationships to work with the wrong men. It’s as if these women try too hard. Ironically, if they are successful, they end up in a […]
Marriage Problems: Why Couples Fight – Psychology Today
Steven Stosny points out in his “Why Couples Fight” article, that people don’t really fight about the things we think they fight about but, rather, they fight when they believe their partner does not care about what they feel and about “the pain of disconnection.” Stosny describes how we get into reactive situations with our […]
How Couples Recover After an Argument Stems From Their Infant Relationships: ScienceDaily
The ScienceDaily staff wrote a short article, adapted from materials provided by the Association for Psychological Science, with the title, “How couples recover after an argument stems from their infant relationships.” We think this contains some valuable lessons for those of us interested in personal growth and healthier relating. A study was conducted at […]
Good Morning
The subject line for this blog post is Good Morning… Mostly we say it in a perfunctory way, but I suggest that it really is (or can be) quite powerful. Is Good Morning a hopeful wish we make for ourselves and others that they (and we) actually have a “good morning”? Or is it potentially […]
Is It Realistic To Befriend Ourselves?
Pema Chodron is an ordained Buddhist nun in the Tibetan Vajrayana tradition. One of the goals of her work is to apply Buddhist teachings in everyday life. Consider her words: “Loving-kindness (maitri) toward ourselves doesn’t mean getting rid of anything. Maitri means that we can still be crazy, we can still be angry. We can […]
How Eagles Mate
“Eagles are believed to mate for life, although biologists have observed that they stay mated only as long as they are a successful reproductive pair. Biologists think that the reproductive process between eagles is such a difficult process that many do not survive it more than one time. Mating, carried out in flight, involves […]