Live Conscious Blog
How To Eliminate Suffering
What lives between the onset of emotional pain and the resolution of that pain is suffering. I am learning to radically reduce the time between the onset of emotional pain and the resolution of that pain—thereby reducing or eliminating suffering. I don’t know if...
What Is Your Essence?
If you weren’t molded by your parents during the first three to four years of your life, who would you be today? If you ponder this vital question—and answer it with just one word—you will find your essence. The answer is not that you were pure and...
How Smart Living is Easier Than Hard Work
There is a way of living that’s easier—smart living! It applies to our physical bodies, our emotional lives, our relationships and even the way we do our jobs. For many years I’ve struggled with a physical condition that prevents me from exerting myself or...
What is your style of adapting to stress? Maturity is the healthiest response.
In one of my previous articles I mentioned the Grant Study, which involves researchers at Harvard who have been asking, “Is there is a formula for the good life?” They have come up with some interesting and helpful conclusions as a result of endlessly...
One Thing You Can Do To Find A Healthy Romantic Partner
A patient recently came in complaining that she cannot find a healthy romantic partner. She said she keeps choosing men who just don’t know how to be happy. Regardless of how well their life is going, they complain about something. And nothing she ever does seems good...
The Key To Happiness
The Grant Study began in 1938, tracking a group of 268 students at Harvard University, and these students have now been observed and interviewed over nine decades. The results are quite revealing and inspiring. Dr. George Vaillant is the storyteller of the study and...
The Last Word You Ever Speak
I recently heard a story about a woman who survived the holocaust. When she and her younger brother were being transported by train to Auschwitz, she got upset with her brother for not packing all the clothes that he would need. She harshly scolded him, telling him...
Is Being Selfless a Good Thing?
I recently read that “we take care of what we love and we grow to love what we take care of.” This made me question how well we do or don’t care for ourselves. The idea of learning to love one’s self is rather vague—how do we do it? But the idea of caring for one’s...
Smart People Find The Answer to Anxiety
Smart people, not smart people—doesn’t matter—the first question we all ask is: “Am I safe or not?” We may not be conscious of this, but it’s the question that operates in the background—all the time. The oldest part of our brain—the primitive part—relies on...
What’s Your Core Pattern—are you overwhelmed?
What’s Your Core Pattern? I’ve identified four core patterns: Confused Overwhelmed Conflicted Depressed Which one is yours? When I ask about a core pattern, I mean a primary pattern of behavior that we use to cope, but also to limit ourselves. We all learn our...
Why Don’t You Get What You Want?
Do you get what you want in your life? I’m not talking about material things; I’m talking about your primary relationships. Does your partner give you what you want? Are you treated the ways you want to be treated? Do you receive from your partner the things you most...
Be Here Now
EVERY MOMENT IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR MINDFULNESS An opportunity to Be Here Now. We just have to REMEMBER to be mindful. A few months ago I was thinking about the Ram Das’ 1971 book “Be Here Now”. I went and pulled the book off my bookshelf and when I saw the actual...
