Do you really need to know “the truth”? What if we realized that the stories we tell ourselves are just stories? They are made up. We assign meaning to everything, and then we act as if the meaning we make up is “the truth.” If you let go of your stories and beliefs would you […]
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Perception Language is a Mindfulness Practice
Perception Language allows you to listen to other people without getting defensive, realize they are only talking about themselves, and stop making compassion-less judgments of others. Perception Language allows you to speak with authority and clarity about your own experiences, to be in the present moment, and to more easily reveal yourself so you […]
Goethe quote
Goethe Quotes —— I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make a life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument […]
The One Simple Thing That Will Change Your Life
Today is Martin Luther King Day. Consider how vitally alive he was while he lived. He did not waste his short but ‘chosen’ life. Have you chosen the life you are living? If not, what is one simple thing you could do to change your life? Or what one thing could you do that would […]
How to Individuate | Step Three
The final stage in the process of individuation is reconnecting with the person you individuated from and interacting with them without losing yourself. This is not always possible. But you won’t know until you go through the stages of declaring and separating, which I previously wrote about. This final stage involves making new agreements, but […]
Path To Fulfillment | More Than One Way?
I resist any practice or religion saying that their way is the “only way”. Too much harm has been done historically because of religion, trying to make others wrong. There are so many paths, almost as many as there are people really, since we each have our own individual interpretation of whatever path we take. […]
Change the Way You Look at Things and the Things you Look at Change
In Psychology Today, Michael Michalko writes about our perceptions and how they color our experience of the world around us. “People tend to think of perception as a passive process. We see, hear, smell, taste or feel stimuli that impinge upon our senses. We think that if we are at all objective, we record what […]
In Search of the Authentic Life | Psychology Today
If you’re in search of the authentic life, it’s worth reading Bob Edelstein’s article in Psychology Today. He writes about his transformation in the early 70’s after reading Carl Rogers’ “Freedom to Learn”. Rogers advocated for an “inner-directed way of being”– authoring your life rather than living your life by old rules and beliefs given […]
The Social Animal by David Brooks validates Live Conscious
The Social Animal by David Brooks, NY Times columnist, intelligently explains and demonstrates what it means to be human. He helps us understand that our unconscious mind—more than our conscious mind—influences our emotions, decision making, perceptions and broadly speaking, the ways in which we make meaning. Brooks reassigns greater value—and appreciation—to our unconscious mind […]
Leaving a Relationship: The Easy Way Out? | Huffington Post
As a practicing therapist, working with many couples over the past 20 years, I disagree with Dr. Margaret’s Paul’s recent article in the Huffington Post, Leaving A Relationship: The Easy Way Out?, wherein she proclaims that difficult relationships are fodder for personal growth and that relationships are hard work. If you believe this, you’re in […]