The final stage in the process of individuation is reconnecting with the person you individuated from and interacting with them without losing yourself. This is not always possible. But you won’t know until you go through the stages of declaring and separating, which I previously wrote about. This final stage involves making new agreements, but […]
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Who Is Responsible for Your Feelings? | Huffington Post
Do you take credit for making yourself happy? How about when you are feeling angry or hurt or rejected or abandoned? It is much easier to blame someone else than to be responsible for your feelings. Margaret Paul Ph.D. writes in Huffington Post, that it is our response to some else’s behavior that creates […]
How To Individuate | Step Two
This post explores how to individuate by taking the second step in the three step process. In an earlier post I wrote generally about the individuation process. I identified three stages: Declaring Separating Reconnecting I’ve written about declaring, and now I want to address the next step, separating. How To Individuate: Step Two To separate […]
Ecology of the Heart | Huffington Post
How does Live Conscious relate to the ecology of the heart? An article in Huffington Post this week written by Radhanath Swami, related spiritual awareness to ecology. It was called, “The Bhakti Way of Investing in the Ecology of the Heart”. The Swami had been approached in a New Delhi airport by the Union Minister for Environment […]
September 11th Anniversary
Today is the 9/11 anniversary of the attack on America. Did we change ourselves as a result of the attack? We came together for a short while, unified and compassionate—but did it last? Did we use the attack to become better? Nietsche said, “Anything that does not kill me will make me stronger.” Are we […]
How To Express Emotions in a Healthy Way
I recently received an email from someone who was concerned about how to express emotions, because in some ways she feels like she is “bad” or “failing” when she expresses “negative” emotions. She wrote: “I am feeling myself to be ‘bad,’ and I hear myself saying, ‘oh no, I failed again when I finally let […]
The Social Animal by David Brooks validates Live Conscious
The Social Animal by David Brooks, NY Times columnist, intelligently explains and demonstrates what it means to be human. He helps us understand that our unconscious mind—more than our conscious mind—influences our emotions, decision making, perceptions and broadly speaking, the ways in which we make meaning. Brooks reassigns greater value—and appreciation—to our unconscious mind […]
Why Finding Your Peace Means Less Suffering for Others | Finding Peace |
Ed and Deb Shapiro, meditation teachers and authors of “Be The Change,” write that: “When we are unhappy or angry, then we are also angry with other people and increase the suffering in the world. When we are in pain, that pain gets projected onto others or blamed onto everything around us: “It’s your fault […]
How To Stop Arguing
I’m a Gunsmoke enthusiast. The TV show aired from 1955 to 1975, and provided mentoring in honesty, integrity, accountability, kindness, and grit. Those of us who grew up paying attention to Matt Dillon learned valuable lessons. Recently watching a rerun, I thought to myself that Matt knows how to stop arguing with people and this […]
A Buddhist Approach to Recovery: Step Four – Searching and Fearless, Kevin Griffin, Huffington Post
In his recent article in the Huffington Post: A Buddhist Approach to Recovery: Step Four – Searching and Fearless, author Kevin Griffin writes about how “defensiveness makes any personal growth highly unlikely.” He asks the reader, “How are you going to change if you won’t admit anything is wrong?” He goes on to explain that, […]