Feel stuck? How do you un-stick yourself? By being human. I recently had a patient come in, a lovely, fairly successful, quite confident teacher in the field of personal growth. She was feeling stuck in her life. She could not motivate herself to do the things she needed to do to promote her work, something […]
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How To Meditate
Our way to practice is one step at a time, one breath at a time. Shunryu Suzuki […]
Happier World
Can You Redo Yourself? This morning while driving our grandson to school, his mother called him on his iPhone. (I don’t think 12-year-olds should have iPhones, but his father bought it for him and his parents are divorced—and well—you can imagine the rest.) At least he uses the speaker phone so not to expose his […]
Apologizing
What if you thought of the act of apologizing— not as admitting that you were wrong—but as a mature choice that you get to make to reconnect with someone you love. Just to be clear—I do know people who are chronically apologetic—that’s not what I am talking about. I’m talking about […]
Being Kind
“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” Dali Lama A patient recently shared with me the difficulties he was having relating with his mother. There were parts of her—certain behaviors and attitudes of hers—that he was having difficulty accepting. He recognized that those qualities in her were not going to change. She […]
Embodied Awareness
How Aware Are You? In our retreats we teach a way to use language, Perception Language, which helps to ground us in the present moment. Using Perception Language minimizes our tendency to become reactive or defensive. But, for those times when we do become reactive—when our “train has left the station”—we have recently incorporated another […]
Perception Language is a Mindfulness Practice
Perception Language allows you to listen to other people without getting defensive, realize they are only talking about themselves, and stop making compassion-less judgments of others. Perception Language allows you to speak with authority and clarity about your own experiences, to be in the present moment, and to more easily reveal yourself so you […]
Sensory Awareness — Day 2 — Maya Tulum 2012
We woke up on our third day of the retreat to a thick fog that quickly burned off and revealed a gorgeous sunny day – accompanied by a calm and almost phosphorescent turquoise sea. We met early on the beach to do our 4—Directions meditation and a sensory experience . . . sensing the sand […]
Who Is Responsible for Your Feelings? | Huffington Post
Do you take credit for making yourself happy? How about when you are feeling angry or hurt or rejected or abandoned? It is much easier to blame someone else than to be responsible for your feelings. Margaret Paul Ph.D. writes in Huffington Post, that it is our response to some else’s behavior that creates […]
Why Finding Your Peace Means Less Suffering for Others | Finding Peace |
Ed and Deb Shapiro, meditation teachers and authors of “Be The Change,” write that: “When we are unhappy or angry, then we are also angry with other people and increase the suffering in the world. When we are in pain, that pain gets projected onto others or blamed onto everything around us: “It’s your fault […]