Have you been or are you currently in therapy? Did you get or are you getting what you want out of therapy? What makes for great therapy? I’ll share my perspective, which I’ve come to after twenty years in private practice. To get the most out of therapy, clients need to make progress in […]
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September 11th Anniversary
Today is the 9/11 anniversary of the attack on America. Did we change ourselves as a result of the attack? We came together for a short while, unified and compassionate—but did it last? Did we use the attack to become better? Nietsche said, “Anything that does not kill me will make me stronger.” Are we […]
Change the Way You Look at Things and the Things you Look at Change
In Psychology Today, Michael Michalko writes about our perceptions and how they color our experience of the world around us. “People tend to think of perception as a passive process. We see, hear, smell, taste or feel stimuli that impinge upon our senses. We think that if we are at all objective, we record what […]
Why Finding Your Peace Means Less Suffering for Others | Finding Peace |
Ed and Deb Shapiro, meditation teachers and authors of “Be The Change,” write that: “When we are unhappy or angry, then we are also angry with other people and increase the suffering in the world. When we are in pain, that pain gets projected onto others or blamed onto everything around us: “It’s your fault […]
Leaving a Relationship: The Easy Way Out? | Huffington Post
As a practicing therapist, working with many couples over the past 20 years, I disagree with Dr. Margaret’s Paul’s recent article in the Huffington Post, Leaving A Relationship: The Easy Way Out?, wherein she proclaims that difficult relationships are fodder for personal growth and that relationships are hard work. If you believe this, you’re in […]
Personal Growth Through Revealing
I have been thinking lately about how much I grow myself by revealing myself and being witnessed in a Live Conscious Retreat. Revealing is a powerful personal growth tool. By nature I am an introvert. I sometimes shy myself in groups. But the more I reveal myself in retreats and gatherings, the more I comfort […]
Life After Death: The Great Mystery / Wake Up!
Nicholas Kardaras in Psychology Today asks the existential question: “What happens to us after we die?…Do we fade into the nothingness of nonexistence or do we wake as a newly born crying infant in a karmic cycle of reincarnation? Or maybe there’s that white light that we hear so much about … with…the warm smiles […]
Five Ways to Kick the Jealousy Habit: Psychology Today
In Psychology Today, Craig Malkin, Ph.D. has written a very helpful article, “Five Ways to Kick the Jealousy Habit.” I recommend it for both the jealousee and the jealouser. In addition to suggesting five things you can do to help yourself deal with jealousy, Craig Malkin explains that jealousy can take on a life of […]
Sex and the Long-Term Relationship: New York Times
The basic drift of an article in the NY Times is that many men and woman, according to the findings of a recent study, are disappointed with the lack of sex in their relationships. And this was attributed to too many “other tasks and obligations competing for a couple’s time.” They are too busy, too […]
Expressing Mindful Love Through Service: Huffington Post
“Expressing Mindful Love Through Service”, a recent article in The Huffington Post, by Ronald Alexander PhD, reminds us that with our conscious service to others, we can improve the quality of our own lives and our relationships. On this upcoming Valentine’s Day and the ‘Week of Random Acts of Kindness’, he shares that by expressing […]