“You have your way.I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche Yesterday I drove my mother and father to the VA hospital in Albuquerque for a doctor’s appointment. I had never been to a VA hospital before. I guess […]
Tag Archives | Love
One Thing You Can Do To Find A Healthy Romantic Partner
A patient recently came in complaining that she cannot find a healthy romantic partner. She said she keeps choosing men who just don’t know how to be happy. Regardless of how well their life is going, they complain about something. And nothing she ever does seems good enough to make up for their unhappiness. I […]
The Key To Happiness
The Grant Study began in 1938, tracking a group of 268 students at Harvard University, and these students have now been observed and interviewed over nine decades. The results are quite revealing and inspiring. Dr. George Vaillant is the storyteller of the study and the “curator” of these men’s lives. What he shares about his […]
Learn How To Love in Three Steps
What could possibly be more important than learning how to love? Did anyone teach you how to love? Did anyone teach your parents how to love? Are you teaching your kids how to love? If you want to teach your children how to love, teach them how to live their lives in such a […]
Who Is Responsible for Your Feelings? | Huffington Post
Do you take credit for making yourself happy? How about when you are feeling angry or hurt or rejected or abandoned? It is much easier to blame someone else than to be responsible for your feelings. Margaret Paul Ph.D. writes in Huffington Post, that it is our response to some else’s behavior that creates […]
How To Individuate | Step One
This blog post explores how to individuate. In an earlier blog post I wrote more broadly about the Individuation Process. I wrote about the need to individuate if we ever want to become our own person and live a life of our own choosing. I wrote about how individuating can begin in our teens and […]
Ecology of the Heart | Huffington Post
How does Live Conscious relate to the ecology of the heart? An article in Huffington Post this week written by Radhanath Swami, related spiritual awareness to ecology. It was called, “The Bhakti Way of Investing in the Ecology of the Heart”. The Swami had been approached in a New Delhi airport by the Union Minister for Environment […]
Path To Fulfillment | More Than One Way?
I resist any practice or religion saying that their way is the “only way”. Too much harm has been done historically because of religion, trying to make others wrong. There are so many paths, almost as many as there are people really, since we each have our own individual interpretation of whatever path we take. […]
A Mother’s Unconditional Love
A dear client of mine recently had to say goodbye to her mother who passed away three months after being diagnosed with cancer. My client fully participated in her mother’s dying process. Much healing occurred as the daughter accompanied her mother down the last part of the river of life’s journey, to the final waterfall, […]
What is Great Therapy?
Have you been or are you currently in therapy? Did you get or are you getting what you want out of therapy? What makes for great therapy? I’ll share my perspective, which I’ve come to after twenty years in private practice. To get the most out of therapy, clients need to make progress in […]