As a practicing therapist, working with many couples over the past 20 years, I disagree with Dr. Margaret’s Paul’s recent article in the Huffington Post, Leaving A Relationship: The Easy Way Out?, wherein she proclaims that difficult relationships are fodder for personal growth and that relationships are hard work. If you believe this, you’re in […]
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Why Do I Keep Choosing The Wrong Partner?
In my previous postings, “How to Find a Good Man” and “How to Find a Good Woman,” I emphasized that early in the dating stage you need to be rather intolerant. I’d like to say more about this. If you’re trying to find a good partner—male or female—one key is to apply your criteria before […]
How To Find A Good Woman
In an earlier posting I wrote about how to find a good man . Most everything I said applies to finding a good woman, so please reference that post. However, here are a few more specific comments. By the way, there’s a lot more interest expressed by women trying to find a good man than […]
How To Find A Good Man
“How To Find A Good Man,” is a continuation from an earlier blog, “Why can’t I find a good man,” in which I suggest that many women attempt to force relationships to work with the wrong men. It’s as if these women try too hard. Ironically, if they are successful, they end up in a […]
Why Can’t I Find A Good Man?
In my private counseling practice I work with a lot of women who ask the question, “Why can’t I find a good man?” I often point out the good news, which is that you’re only looking for one. Today, I had a casual conversation with a woman who used to be a client. I haven’t […]
Marriage Problems: Why Couples Fight – Psychology Today
Steven Stosny points out in his “Why Couples Fight” article, that people don’t really fight about the things we think they fight about but, rather, they fight when they believe their partner does not care about what they feel and about “the pain of disconnection.” Stosny describes how we get into reactive situations with our […]
Five Ways to Kick the Jealousy Habit: Psychology Today
In Psychology Today, Craig Malkin, Ph.D. has written a very helpful article, “Five Ways to Kick the Jealousy Habit.” I recommend it for both the jealousee and the jealouser. In addition to suggesting five things you can do to help yourself deal with jealousy, Craig Malkin explains that jealousy can take on a life of […]
The American Nightmare: Psychology Today – Happiness
Lauren Sandler proposes the question in Psychology Today : “Why are we not happy even if we have everything the American Dream prescribed?” She cites surveys that are revealing that we, “have grown continuously more depressed over the last half-century.” Sandler quotes behavioral researchers who say that, “much of our discontent seems linked to […]
Sex and the Long-Term Relationship: New York Times
The basic drift of an article in the NY Times is that many men and woman, according to the findings of a recent study, are disappointed with the lack of sex in their relationships. And this was attributed to too many “other tasks and obligations competing for a couple’s time.” They are too busy, too […]
How Couples Recover After an Argument Stems From Their Infant Relationships: ScienceDaily
The ScienceDaily staff wrote a short article, adapted from materials provided by the Association for Psychological Science, with the title, “How couples recover after an argument stems from their infant relationships.” We think this contains some valuable lessons for those of us interested in personal growth and healthier relating. A study was conducted at […]