Live Conscious Blog
How To Create Healthy Relationships
Do you think creating healthy relationships —romantic ones—is hard? Many people do. And you know what . . . all those people who think so have a hard time creating healthy relationships. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. And if you expect it to be hard, when it...
To Heck With Unconditional Love
Unconditional Love Is Not The Answer “I pursued unconditional love for years and ended up being a single woman with a cat. Only after I created my FOUR CONDITIONS did I attract a healthy partner into my life.” The follow article is...
The Dalai Lama Teaches Us To Be Mature
The Dalai Lama offers us a key to being mature. Do you respond maturely even in the most challenging situations? Or, as many people demonstrate, are there times when you just lose it—and you tell yourself “that’s the way life is?” I will suggest to...
How To Work With Your Attachment Styles
Do you want to know how to bring about change in your life? Start by looking at yourself and determining your “attachment styles.” There is a body of work in the field of psychology known as Attachment Theory. In this short post I’m not going to...
“The Truth” Is Just A Story
Do you really need to know “the truth”? What if we realized that the stories we tell ourselves are just stories? They are made up. We assign meaning to everything, and then we act as if the meaning we make up is “the truth.” If you let go of your stories...
Three Keys To Emotional Health
We’ve identified three things that are necessary to recreate emotional health, which is a prerequisite to having a great life and sustainable relationships. 1. The first is psychological development. There are many psychological practices and therapies that lead...
Mindfulness Spoken Here & Now!
Something new is alive in me and I can’t wait to share myself. Since I say I can’t wait, I’ll give you a few highlights. I have embellished my mindfulness toolbox after recently attending a 10-day training in California. Perception Language, is a mindful way to use...
Yes, you are argumentative if you do this!
Are you or your partner argumentative? Have you had this kind of disagreement with your partner? One of you says to the other, “I don’t like it when you X.” Or, “I don’t want you to X.” “I don’t want you to flirt with...
Political Incorrectness—the key to healthy relationships
Okay, here is our politically incorrect advice for people who want to have healthy relationships. And this applies to all romantic relationships, intimate relationships, or close friendships. If you want to have healthy relationships: Be intolerant! Being intolerant...
Why Do We Hold Back?
There are basically three reasons why we hold back . . . We judge something about ourselves as unacceptable so we don’t want others to see it. We believe another person will judge something about us as unacceptable. We withhold as a way to punish the person...
How To Stop Being Defensive
There are two fundamental reasons why we get defensive. If we understand these reasons—with a little bit of effort—we can stop being defensive. Defending ourselves when we really don’t need to is one of the last vestiges of immaturity. #1—We defend ourselves...
Good Love Making — how’s your sex life?
Do you have a healthy sex life? To answer that question you need to have a definition of “sexual health.” If your love making is great, maybe you don’t need to read any further, just go back to bed with your partner. But, if your love making and sex life aren’t...
